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What’s in my Pocket Friday

April 3, 2015 By AJ Leave a Comment

I save things in my pocket all week long and look forward to sharing the highlights and best of the web with you every Friday!

Pocket enables users to save something they find online for later. I find it especially handy as a Google Chrome extension — I only have to click a button to immediately save something to my pocket. Once something is saved, the content is visible on any device — phone, tablet, computer, and even offline.

Pocket Fridays - Best of the Web

  • The apocalypse is HILARIOUS! I have been helping a friend with his movie’s trailer premiere. It is amazing how funny a simple teaser can be in less than 90 seconds in the hands of good filmmakers. Take a look at the coverage over at “The Mary Sue” or just have a look here:

  • I had a fun night out in Hollywood Wednesday when I went with a friend to see one of my all-time favorite movies, ‘Newsies,’ at the El Capitan Theatre WITH THE ORIGINAL CAST. As luck would have it, they were sitting in the row right in front of us, which was delightful. Afterward, the national touring company of the musical came out and surprised the theater by performing two numbers from the show. It was an incredible event.

Pocket Fridays - Best of the Web

  • It was a good night for people watching, too. Jesus was sitting out on the street playing Red Hot Chili Peppers covers and I spotted Tinkerbell chatting up a taxi. (Frankly, I think she should fly but whatever. Her life.)

Pocket Fridays - Best of the Web

  • I was also doing some light window shopping. I was impressed how well Disney created the stepmother doll in Cate Blanchett’s likeness and how they utterly failed representing Helena Bonham Carter.

Pocket Fridays - Best of the Web

  • “15 Things Ambitious Girls Do a Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating” from Thought Catalog. It is SPOT. ON.
  • “Four Things to Consider Before You Get a PR Team” – so simple and well said from Entrepreneur.
  • A terrific new Tumblr called “Not Getting the Job” that is essentially job applicant FAILS. I laugh at every single one. How sad that so many are familiar to me….
  • Yesterday, I had three pretty rowdy co-workers. Kona, Cody and Lucy. They don’t get a lot done around the office but I believe they really contribute to the flow of creativity!

Pocket Fridays - Best of the Web

Filed Under: Pocket Fridays Tagged With: Cinderella, Hollywood, Newsies, Pocket Fridays

What’s in my Pocket Friday

March 27, 2015 By AJ 1 Comment

I save things in my pocket all week long and look forward to sharing the highlights and best of the web with you every Friday!

Pocket enables users to save something they find online for later. I find it especially handy as a Google Chrome extension — I only have to click a button to immediately save something to my pocket. Once something is saved, the content is visible on any device — phone, tablet, computer, and even offline.

Pocket Fridays

  • This is a terrific moment for me as a publicist. When a reporter made an inquiry for information from Google, they had a pretty terrific, animated response. Click here to see it.
  • The cast of ‘Pretty Woman’ reunited on the TODAY Show and it was delightful!
  • Here are 17 shirts for lazy people and I really want most of them.

What's in Pocket Friday - Best of the Web

  • James Corden and Tom Hanks win the internet.
  • There is a scientific reason behind why men like big butts. I’m pretty excited about this — they should like me ALOT.
  • I am obsessed with Anne Hogan’s DIY jewelry organizer and totally plan to copy her.
  • According to The Onion, fetal position desks are going to replace standing desks. I also want one of these.

EARLIER THIS WEEK

  • Blogger Chris Lam gave me a nice shout-out on What I Run Into and I love her right back.
  • I spoke on a panel called “Branding For Women” and it was marvelous. Full recap coming soon.
  • I waxed poetic on why we do this whole, crazy blogging thing.
  • I bitched about Fan Q&As, which are horrible.
  • When I got a good fortune cookie, I pinned the quote.

AND THE CROWN JEWEL OF MY WEEK WAS THIS. Read it all. The post, the comments. It was a golden moment in my people-watching life:

Filed Under: Pocket Fridays Tagged With: Best of the web, branding for women, James Corden, pretty woman, Tom Hanks, why we blog

Who Are We Writing For?

March 26, 2015 By AJ Leave a Comment

WHY DO WE BLOG?

In this strange life I lead of both publicist and blogger, I often have to bite my tongue on social media. I see a lot of comments about brands that shouldn’t be made in public places. Sometimes I rush to defend my PR brethren and feel a little guilty for being “the man” and sometimes I side with the bloggers and feel guilty that I am betraying my profession. I witness some pretty upsetting behavior — like when, this week, I saw a blogger post something a brand sent them to review on eBay — and she talking about it openly on social media.

Come on, guys. We’re better than this. And everyone is watching ALL OF THE TIME. You gotta know that.

But right now I want to hone in on two very simple questions, bloggers: WHO ARE WE WRITING FOR? WHY DO WE BLOG?

Who Are We Writing For?  Why do we blog?

“I’m writing for myself.” 

Of course you are. Aren’t we all? I mean, let’s be honest, guys. Bloggers are a little narcissistic. Otherwise we’d go be accountants. Writing probably fulfills a need for you. As any creative outlet, passion project, or satisfying full-time career would. Right? RIGHT?

But are you writing for yourself alone? Not unless you are the only one reading it, in which case you’re keeping a diary, not a blog.

“I’m blogging because it’s easy.”

*AJ bursts out laughing and runs away* Easy?! No, it’s really not.

“I’m blogging to make money.”

Totally fair but blogging is hard work, so you’d better love it. You’d better be prepared for some late nights and some tight deadlines.

And if you don’t have any readers, no one’s paying you, right?

WHO ARE WE WRITING FOR? WHY DO WE BLOG?

Because there’s an audience out there. And they want information. And we’re in a position to give it to them. Because we’ve worked hard to build a following on social media and it’s made us influential. Because we’re passionate about engaging with our readers. Because we like connecting to people in real life and online. Because it makes us part of a global community. Because we like it.

We may have started for ourselves and as a result, we may do it for money. Eventually we may do it to get free stuff or for internet fame, but I really think all of those reasons have to be secondary if you want to succeed. When the really hard decisions have to be made, and you really need to think about why you blog or what you should blog, you should be thinking about who’s engaging with your content. I promise keeping that in mind at all times will make you infinitely more successful, long term.

People read your blog because they like you. Your audience returns and grows because they like you in earnest. And only then will people partner and work with you. Only then will the brands come, the money, the fame, etc.

Bloggers, next time you find yourself in a forum typing out a question akin to “should I write about ________________ for no money?” or “I went to ________________ and didn’t know if I should cover it for my blog,” etc., I beg you pause first and ask yourself, “Would my readers enjoy this content?” Because when they are happy, that is what benefits you the MOST. THAT is why you blog.

And by the way, if you do blog about a brand without them asking you to or paying you to, I also beg you to send them the link and say “Hey! Look what I did! My readers loved it. You should work with me for reals.” (Ok, don’t say it exactly like that. Let’s keep it professional, people.)

And that’s all I have to say about that.

But if you want a little more insight, I like this piece by Joshua Becker, “15 Reasons I Think You Should Blog.” Took me back to my early days!

UPDATE:

It was suggested to me, wisely, that if you are reviewing a product or writing a sponsored post for a brand, you have to write for them. Well, yes, you do. I totally agree. But you still have to keep your audience in mind! And to that end, I also would add this advice – when you’re initially approached for these opportunities, make sure it’s something your audience will want to know about. Don’t just accept the opportunity because it makes you a few bucks. In short, don’t be a sell out! 😉

This post is dedicated to Melissa – a conversation with her inspired this post. She rules. Read her blog.

Filed Under: Pro Tips Tagged With: blog, blogging, protip, sponsored posts, why we blog

Fan Q&As are the worst thing ever

March 23, 2015 By AJ 2 Comments

Fan Q&As: Making us slump down in our seats since 1993

For real, though. Ever been to a screening? A panel? Then I am sure you will agree that the fan question and answer sessions that often follow these events are embarrassing to everyone in the room.

Ban Fan Q&As

Here are all the usual suspects!

THE HUGGER

“I love you soooooo much, can I have a hug?”

No. Stop that. Have some dignity and sit down. Never ask if you can physically touch these people. That is so creepy, guys.

PERSONAL SPACE INVADER

Ever been to a more intimate Q&A where you actually get an opportunity to stand face-to-face with a celeb? And subsequently seen a fellow fan just start rubbing that celeb’s shoulders? Well, I have. IT IS NOT OKAY.

THE ROLE PLAYER

They come in costume. Or wearing a a logo tee under a logo hoodie with a logo baseball hat and logo socks. They might be holding up a poster-board that says “I LOVE YOU STEPHEN AMELL.” With glitter. Sigh…. 

THE LIFE CHANGER

“So, like, I really love you. And if it hadn’t been for you, I never would have moved to Hollywood. And if I hadn’t moved to Hollywood, I wouldn’t have gotten my job. And if I hadn’t gotten my job, I never would have met my husband. So you, like, totally changed my life and I just want to thank you sooooooooo much.”

And what was your question, embarrassing person?

RELENTLESS KNOW-IT-ALL

These are the fans who know a shows mythology and cast better than you do. Better than even they do. They noticed that time you wiped your nose in the middle of a scene and OMIGOD was it intentional? Because your character so would not do that. Also, that guy who is the secret villain? That is totally not how it happened in the comic book. Just FYI.

RUDE BOY

This actually happened at a Les Miserables panel:

“[Amanda Seyfried], did you like doing Mamma Mia more since the music was more in your range and you came out sounding much more powerful?”

Eddie Redmayne, trying bravely to lighten the mood jumped in, “Are you saying she sucked?”

To which the fan replied, “No, she just sounded better in Mamma Mia.”

FACEPALM.

See also: One time at a Gilmore Girls panel, a fan asked Melissa McCarthy if the show would be incorporating a diabetes story-line because of her weight. Not. Even. Joking.

AN UNORIGINAL

“David Boreanaz, is it hard to play Booth after playing Angel for so many years?

“David Duchovny, is it hard to play Hank after playing Mulder for so long?”

“David Tennant, is it hard to play any role after being Doctor Who?”

(I just went with all Davids for this for fun.) It’s called acting, guys. The very definition of what they do for a living is pretend to be other people on a recurring basis. Don’t ask them that.

See also: “What do you want your legacy to be?” This is often asked, especially by press. It’s just a lame question. It’s what you ask when you can’t think of something better and has even become kind of an inside joke in Hollywood — everyone in the industry knows this question blows.

THE RAMBLER

The “question” is not actually a question. It’s an eight minute rant with no end in sight.

THE STRUGGLING ARTIST

These events are not the place to ask someone to read your script or get acting advice. Anything that starts with ” “So I’m also a writer/director/actor and I wondering…” is bad news.

TECH SUPPORT WANTED

It sounds crazy but every now and then, someone will stand up and complain about a website function or a password issue. I can’t even begin to tell you how ludicrous this is…

AUTOGRAPH WHORES

We hate these people the most. When the fan Q&A is over, these are the insane people who rush the stage, waving posters, photos, whatever they can get a signature on, in the air. Half that shit is gonna end up on eBay and nine times out of 10, the talent is kind and patient enough to sign everything. Bless their hearts.

Ban Fan Q&As

For a little more insight, please feel free to check out my recent coverage of the ‘Arrow’ and ‘Flash’ PaleyFest panels on Forces of Geek.

Filed Under: Pop Culture Tagged With: autographs, embarrassing moments, Fan questions, PaleyFest

Things not to say to your unemployed friend

March 22, 2015 By AJ Leave a Comment

Let’s just say it: Being out of work sucks. Whomever’s choice it was – be it a result of a lay-off or even if you chose to leave a position – being unemployed carries with it a whole set of fears, worries, self-doubt and exhaustion. (All of the feels, right?) Sometimes, even with the best of intentions at heart, people can say the most awkward things when you’re in this situation. Often times when people are tying to make you feel better, they trip over their words or don’t think things all the way through, leaving you with some emotional wreckage.

Things not to say to your unemployed friend

Many of my friends and I work in fields that render us “between opportunities” on a recurring basis. Public relations has a notoriously fast turnaround much like production or post-production, marketing, gaming, social media consulting and more. A lot of my friends are full-time freelancers and often find themselves incorrectly labeled as unemployed so they bare the brunt of this hot mess, too. When I got the idea to make a list of things not to say to unemployed people, I sent out an email blast to several friends to help and was nodding my head with every reply.

From me and many of my friends, whose names have been withheld to protect them, I give you a great resource of things not to say to your unemployed friends and family.

  • “Oh man, I bet you can just relax and watch TV now. You are so lucky.” -M.
  • “Now you have time to do all of the things you haven’t had time for!” -KK.

This is not a vacation. Let’s be clear. I realize this is kind of a “silver lining” offering. “Yes, we’re in a rough situation but there’s a positive side to it, too!” Except there really isn’t. Because when you’re working hard to find a new job and stressing about how you will pay your rent or mortgage next month, it’s hard to enjoy anything.

  • “Well that sucks. It took forever to find my job. It’s a bad market.” -M.
  • “I’m so sorry, that is the worst thing ever.” As if someone just died and they always throw in the sympathetic shoulder pat. -L.
  • One time a friend sent me an article on how getting divorced when your husband is unemployed makes getting full custody easier. -MM.

Thanks. I feel ALL BETTER now, bro.

  • “I was going to invite you out, but I know how broke you are right now.” -K.

Do you? Do you really? This is obviously a fine line. You probably don’t want to invite your unemployed friend to spend $100 on a night out but don’t explain things away with assumptions either.

  • “Have you been looking?” or “Have you been applying lots of places?”  -P.

No. I’m mostly just staring at my laptop and eating chips. (Seriously, that is such a benign question. Do better,)

  • “Oh, my friend is hiring a receptionist. Do you want me to send her your contact info?” -T.

To clarify, I always appreciate being introduced to anyone. That said, be really careful about what kind of openings you start forwarding to people. Don’t insult an out-of-work executive with an entry-level opening. Not cool.

For the freelancers, there were a good handful of replies, too.

  • “Ooooooh…. you do freelance work…..” as if to say “what do you even do?” or “how the hell do you make a living?” -S.
  • “I could NEVER do what you do. I HAVE to have a full time job.” -B.

Freelancers do have full-time jobs, guys. The freelance dream is to be busy enough to welcome time off (don’t forget, they usually don’t get paid time off like full-time in-house employees do) and never to scramble to find work again, but that’s just not always the case.

Overall, there are some eggshell moments here, I know. But I swear, we’ll all get through it with hugs, liquor, and a little common sense. After all, the number one thing I got back in my email replies was:

  • “DON’T WORRY! YOU’LL FIND SOMETHING SOON.”

Things Not to Say to Your Unemployed Friend

Filed Under: Pro Tips Tagged With: out of work, things not to say, unemployed, unemployment

What’s In My Pocket Friday

March 20, 2015 By AJ Leave a Comment

I save things in my pocket all week long and look forward to sharing the highlights and best of the web with you every Friday!

Pocket enables users to save something they find online for later. I find it especially handy as a Google Chrome extension — I only have to click a button to immediately save something to my pocket. Once something is saved, the content is visible on any device — phone, tablet, computer, and even offline.

Pocket Fridays

  • I went to see Cinderella (yes, again) with a friend yesterday and BRUNO MARS was in the theater with us. We were DYING. Just had to share.

Best of the Web - Pocket Fridays

  • I thought this moment between NBC News anchor Lester Holt and his son, who’s a local news anchor in Chicago, was cute.
  • I feel fairly certain that many people I know should own this sweatshirt.

Best of the Web - Pocket Fridays

  • Celebrity Chef Paula Deen has apparently decided she too needs an app. Here is a trailer for her new game, “Recipe Quest.” It may be the craziest thing ever. SHE HAS CRAZY EYES, guys.

  • I thought this article, “20 Actions You Can Take to Look Like a Pro Blogger” by Regina was pretty terrific.
  • This is a really great little gadget, isn’t it? Check out the WonderCube.
  • Apparently these are the seven worst cocktails, according to a bartender. Whatever, dude. I love a mimosa with brunch.
  • I’m oddly obsessed with this movie trailer for ‘The Age of Adaline’ starring Blake Lively, whom I’ve really been ambivalent about until now.

Best of the Web - Pocket Fridays

  • I’m giving out some PR tips in person on April 14 in Century City. You can get a $20 early bird ticket til March 31 here.

EARLIER THIS WEEK

  • I finally saw ‘Kingsman: The Secret Service” and I loved it! If you haven’t seen it yet and love a fun, violent, witty action flick, go see it. Ass-kicking Colin Firth is amazing.
  • I covered the PaleyFest panels for ‘Arrow’ and ‘The Flash’ and had a blast! Have a look at my piece on Forces of Geek.
  • Stay tuned for more contributed content from me — Bold Italic just accepted another column from me. Hooray!

Filed Under: Pocket Fridays Tagged With: Age of Adaline, Bruno Mars, Colin Firth, Kingsman, PaleyFest, Pocket Fridays, Wondercube

PR Fail: Waiting Too Long To Send Product

March 15, 2015 By AJ 2 Comments

How long is too long? Let’s talk about this PR Fail…

On July 2, 2014, a brand representative who shall remain nameless (as will the brand) reached out to me and said their company had a lot of exciting things in the works, coming off a successful Kickstarter, and asked if I’d be interested in reviewing one or more of their new products (for my other blog).

I took a look at the links. I replied that yes, I would be interested. I loved the product line’s aesthetic and was excited to try it. I included my address to make it easy.

A few days later, I’d not heard back so I checked in. A few days after that, the rep got back to me. Product would not actually be available until the Fall but would I mind just posting about the product anyway? She included a discount code for my readers to purchase the product as “incentive.” (So they had product for my readers to buy but not one for me to review?) I immediately replied that this would be considered advertising, or a “sponsored post” and I would charge a small fee to execute that. (This is common practice for bloggers and in all honesty, my sponsored post fees are comparably low because blogging is not my full-time job.)

To be kind, because I still very much wanted to try the product, I threw out a couple tweets about it and sent the links to the brand rep.

They never replied. Silence. Oh well.

PR Fail: Waiting Too Long To Send Product

Then in November I received an email from a totally different brand rep. We will call this one BR2. BR2 informed me that three types of their product were en route to my address for review that week. Oh, and also, they had just secured $1M in funding!

I replied that while I appreciated them doing their due diligence, albeit quite delayed, I didn’t even live at that address anymore. BR2 said it was not a problem to update the system and they could still send me the items.

Maybe this is where it becomes my fault. It was a slow week; I said “fine.” As this was a new person, perhaps the previous one had made some kind of error and had been let go. Maybe BR2 deserved renewed hope. I’m a publicist, too, after all, and I was still genuinely impressed by what I knew of their brand and a $1M investment is nothing to sneeze at, so I still went along with it.

That said, when nothing ever came, I kind of didn’t care and mentally decided I was done with these people.

A month later, this email to me:

I emailed you a few weeks ago that we were getting ready to ship you a [redacted] and [redacted]. I’m sorry for the delay but we are making changes to the [redacted] which require a few extra weeks of manufacturing time. We want to send you the improved version so please keep an eye out for the package in Mid-January. We’ll follow-up with tracking information then!

I did not even reply. I probably should have, if only to separate myself from these people once and for all, except I had let go of hope long ago and did not expect to ever hear form them or ever see the product. Perhaps part of me was still morbidly curious about the product as well. Who knows.

Cut to February. (Note: Not “Mid-January.”) I get an email from a third brand rep (yes, now BR3) with the subject line “YOUR [REDACTED] HAS SHIPPED” complete with tracking number.

Five days later, BR3 followed up with a recap of what they’d sent and a link to a press kit that was, I’m afraid, the most uninformative, basic press kit I’ve ever seen. I glazed over with boredom. How did these people get a $1M investment?

The product arrived soon after. The packaging was pretty but kind of hard to open. Furthermore, there was nothing else in the box. No note, no business card, no one-sheet, no brochure. I’m not an idiot – I can go to the website – but I thought that was kind of a lazy presentation. I put the product aside. They had sent it without even asking if I was still interested and given the history, I certainly felt no urgent obligation to bother.

I heard from BR3 again asking when I would post a review. I replied that since I’d expected the product seven months prior, that frankly, I would get to it when I felt like it. BR3 quickly responded that they were so sorry for the repeated delays — they were just trying to get the product in its best shape before sending. Which begs the question, why were you even pitching a sub-par product? (Also, where were the first two brand reps I dealt with? At this point, I was kind of concerned they’d fallen down a hole in a factory or something, and no one was competent enough to rescue them.)

The other day I was bored so I finally tried out the items. To be kind, they did not work well. And I know the women will share my annoyance – I broke two nails trying to use one of them… It is possible my expectations were deeply, severely low by now and there was going to be no way to please me but so be it. There was no question I should have cut them off ages ago and that the parade of reps I’d dealt with had mismanaged this campaign. All I felt about the whole thing now was awkward.

BR3 was persistent and followed up again. At last, I was really done. I replied:

Thanks for writing.  I’m going to be honest with you.

I waited and waited for these items (seriously, correspondence began in July 2014) and I pretty much gave up hope. I was told on more than one occasion something was finally coming and every time but this time, nothing ever came. So credibility was out the window leaving me with a sour taste in my mouth about it all. 

That said, initially, I was excited to check them out so I was clinging to a glimmer of hope that the product would blow me away and all would be forgiven.

Instead, I’m even more let down. First of all, the products came in lovely packaging with absolutely no descriptions, No fact sheet. No explanations. So I had to go to the website. I suppose that’s fine, but as I’m a publicist in my full-time career, I would never send product out that way. Especially when it’s been waited on for more than half a year. 

As for the product itself, ….. [TACTFUL EXPLANATION OF WHY THE PRODUCT DOESN’T SUCCEED REDACTED]

I wish you a lot of luck in your future endeavors. Sadly, this was just not for me and I’ll simply pass on writing up a review.

Thank you and best wishes…

Well, bloggers? What do you think? Has anything like this ever happened to you? How would you have handled it?

Publicists, brand reps, marketers, what say ye? Empathy? Apathy? Shakey fists?

PR Fail: Waiting Too Long To Send Product

Filed Under: Pro Tips Tagged With: blogger relations, PR Fail, Public relations, publicist fail, publicity

What’s In My Pocket Friday

March 13, 2015 By AJ Leave a Comment

I save things in my pocket all week long and look forward to sharing the highlights and best of the web with you every Friday!

Pocket enables users to save something they find online for later. I find it especially handy as a Google Chrome extension — I only have to click a button to immediately save something to my pocket. Once something is saved, the content is visible on any device — phone, tablet, computer, and even offline.

Pocket Fridays

  • Trailer’s out for the new Kurt Cobain documentary and both 1993 me and present day me are totally in.
  • I’ve decided to pay more attention to my Tumblr, which I’ve let fall behind.
  • I re-watched Wet Hot American Summer this week. It’s been playing on cable. Make sure you see this movie before the Netflix series comes out.
  • I went for a walk the other day and found myself in jewelry designer Alisa Michelle’s shop and it was lovely. A lot of affordable, chic, beautiful pieces, and some really clever collections.

A photo posted by AJ (@ajfeuerman) on Mar 11, 2015 at 6:15pm PDT

  • My new crack is the Cinefix “Things You Didn’t Know” channel.
  • Brunch is my favorite meal and my friend sent me a little history on it. I love this.
  • Y’all know I love the comic book TV & film stuff and the Netflix trailer for Daredevil is a masterpiece unto itself.

What's In My Pocket Friday

  • Am I the last one to discover Boomerang for Gmail?
  • I loved this article from Inc., “What I’ve Learned From 20 Jobs in 20 Years.”
  • Ryan. Gosling. Dancing. Age 12. You’re welcome.

EARLIER THIS WEEK

  • Apparently we’ve finally crossed the line – there really are apps for everything
  • I reviewed a fabulous restaurant in Pasadena
  • I pinned the most stunning Louboutains I’ve ever seen
  • I reviewed Disney’s Cinderella for Misflix

 

Filed Under: Pocket Fridays Tagged With: Boomerang for gmail, Cinefix, daredevil, kurt cobain, Louboutains, netflix, Pocket Fridays, Ryan gosling, Wet Hot American Summer

An App For Everything – Even Suicide Prevention

March 12, 2015 By AJ 2 Comments

A suicide prevention app? Well, they say there’s an app for everything and I guess they ain’t lyin’.

Post by Bloggers of Health.

Never mind how alarmed I am this post has been shared three times. And the hashtag offense — why are we hashtagging the word “prevent,” pray tell?

To be fair, at the very least, they are not wrong. According to the CDC, suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in America. Also:

    • Suicide is the SECOND leading cause of death for ages 10-24.
    • Suicide is the THIRD leading cause of death for college-age youth and ages 12-18.
    • More teenagers and young adults die from suicide than from cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, stroke, pneumonia, influenza, and chronic lung disease, COMBINED.
    • Each day in our nation there are an average of over 5,400 attempts by young people grades 7-12.
    • Four out of five teens who attempt suicide have given clear warning signs.   source

You do not get to post something like this so casually. Not without citing sources. Not when you’re making a claim. Not when the site you’re directing to gives no indication of any medical expertise. The address for their “business” is a private residence. No names are apparent. They have “contributing partners” like Ford and Las Fotos Project — these have nothing to do with health.

The post you click through to explains nothing. Just that the app will be demonstrated via webinar. You too can “be among the first to try this new suicide prevention learning tool—optimized for tablets.” (Cue jazz hands!)

The app in question is from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration:

An App For Everything - Even Suicide Prevention

 

Perhaps they were hoping to ride Facebook’s coattails and jump on the suicide prevention trend-train. There was also a similar app launch in February – The Broome HOPE App helps users recognize the warning signs of suicide and allows them to immediately connect to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. And MY3 let’s your create a an online support system and build a “safety plan.” Do we live in a society where suicide prevention is trendy? I can’t even begin to wrap my head around that tragedy. This should never be a thing. This should never be trendy.

SAMHSA’s app differentiates itself because it’s targeted at healthcare professionals instead of consumers, since about 50% of people who commit suicide have seen a doctor in the last month of their life. The app helps healthcare providers identify people who may be contemplating suicide.

Because I guess healthcare professionals don’t get enough schooling. They need an app for that.

Sigh.

I’m not against anything that aids in suicide prevention. I’m really not. But while we’re pushing this technology out, I hope we can all be responsible enough to know an app will NOT prevent suicide. I hope we can provide research and cite sources and word things with care. This is an area where we can’t afford to be cool and trendy with jazz hands.

Yes, an app can provide resources and a network of support. You know what else does that? Google. Friends and family. And properly trained healthcare professionals.

And that’s all I got for this round of rant. If you or someone you know needs help, make sure you get help. Here are two excellent starting points:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1 (800) 273-8255
  • The Trevor Project: 1 (866) 488-7386

Filed Under: Tech Tagged With: App, Mental Health, SAMHSA, Suicide Prevention

Magnolia House Pasadena – A Neighborhood Gem

March 11, 2015 By AJ Leave a Comment

Entering Magnolia House in Pasadena, it’s like you’ve entered some secret back alley.

Magnolia House Pasadena

Not to worry – no one is going to steal your wallet. Down this alley and around the corner is a glorious bar and intimate restaurant that serves up fabulous cocktails and amazing food. And I’m not even exaggerating — the entry is kind of an alley…. Built over 100 years ago, Magnolia has been a family home, a post-Prohibition liquor store and a myriad of modern businesses. They have preserved that house-feeling so incredibly well (I mean, case and point – you can see the actual house in this photo) and the result is pretty unique.

Magnolia House Pasadena

But enough about the setting. Can  we talk about the experience? The food? The drinks?

At first, I was concerned as a possibly misguided hostess thought it was okay to seat me and my guest in a corner completely out of view of the rest of the restaurant, behind a loud party of about 10 people. But the manager wasn’t having it (frankly, I wasn’t either) and had her move us almost immediately to a proper spot, dead center of all the action. He and our fantastic server wasted no time making recommendations so I started off with the “Everyday Sunshine” – a cocktail that contained everything I love in life: vodka, pineapple, raspberry, lime…. It was sweet and delicious. I’m a pretty girly drinker and I know a lot of y’all are too. Don’t even try to be all tough with that bourbon I can smell from nine feet away.

Magnolia House Pasadena

Some of you have probably realized by now that I almost always bring a guest with me on these restaurant visits. It’s not because I hate dining alone — on the contrary, I rather enjoy it. It’s really because as a single person, it’s hard to sample enough of the menu to make a fair evaluation… Also so I don’t send myself into fatal obesity stuffing my face with great food at a place like Magnolia House.

We began with something simple and small – NUTS. I’m not joking. (Although I am giggling like a teenager every time I type NUTS.) And not just any nuts. The black truffle infused sea salt pistachios come out in a little bucket and this is where having my friend was handy. Because were she not present, I may have opened my mouth and just poured that bucket out. Pistachios are my favorite nut, guys, but these were unreal.

Of course, I could not pass up trying the Brussels sprouts, too. They are made with pistachio pesto, bacon, and pecornio cheese with a flash fried poached egg on top. Also unreal. I dreamed about these sprouts for many nights after. My sexy man dreams were getting jealous.

Magnolia House Pasadena

We weren’t done with shared plates yet because then I simply had to try the king crab mac & cheese. It was among some of the best mac & cheese I’ve ever tasted. It didn’t even need the crab, but I certainly enjoyed that, too!

Magnolia House Pasadena

Oh but wait — then it was time for a second cocktail and I was feeling a little more brave so at the manager’s urging I tried the “Phantom Engineer” which is mezcal, rye, grapefruit, lime and aperitif wine (it’s basically vermouth, I believe). He was right to urge. I liked it better than my earlier beverage.

Magnolia House Pasadena

I was already nearing full but the team insisted their burger was to die for and I do love a good burger. So it arrived and we split it in half. THE CHEESE won me over before I even put it in my mouth. They make their own American cheese! How nuts is that?! And it also has bourbon onions and thick-cut smoked bacon. It is definitely an amazing burger. Maybe even my top five. I’ll have to have it again and will let you know…

Magnolia House Pasadena

In the end, it came down to dessert or polishing off the pistachios I hadn’t consumed yet so for the good of this review, I had the bread pudding. It was wonderful. But then I had nut-regret. They were so stinking good and how could I just let half a bucket of nuts go to waste like that?!

Answer: I couldn’t. I begged for a plastic baggy. They obliged.

Magnolia House Pasadena

Added bonus? They bring the check out in a “little black book.” We enjoyed flipping through it and reading previous customer contributions. Naturally, we left our own. Luckily my friend has a sense of humor.

Magnolia House Pasadena

More:

  • Official website
  • Their socials – Facebook, Twitter, Instagram
  • Parking – street parking? When we went, there wasn’t a valet but we found a lot behind the building that seemed like it was safe.
  • Pro tip – It’s a fairly small restaurant and they do not take reservations. Plan accordingly.

Filed Under: Foodie Tagged With: Magnolia House, Pasadena, Restaurant

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